How to Improve Your Own Personality

Improve your communication skills

Another important step to become a successful communicator is to improve your communication skills, including in these are listening and speaking. Now you can ask that how to improve communication skills, you can do this very easily; just go into a room and stand in front of the mirror and consider the mirror as a listener. Practice makes a man perfect. If you will practice here lonely on your speaking skills it will be improved to a considerable extent and the next step is going to a good speaker and listen to him, it will improve your listening power  significantly. When your both skills get improved to some extent the next step is to practice your speaking in front of any family member or even a friend. Just pick a topic and speak on that topic in front of them with the confidence you built earlier on. They will comment on your speaking skills and you can use the feedback as an indicator as to which areas you may need improving on as well as understating where you strengths are.

Use common language

While communicating in the workplace you should be very careful about the language, because at the workplace or in any business, there may be people from different cultural backgrounds and multi-ethnic groups. A language that is common to you and to the people of your cultures may be tough and hard to understand for the people of other cultures. It is therefore very important that you have selected a language that is easily understandable by all people. If only a few people will understand your language you will not be a good communicator because in this way, the people who could not understand you may think you as bad communicator through example. So, you should use a common language that is understandable by everyone.

Use concise sentences

You must use good and concise sentences as the use of too many long sentences will bore the listeners and will make the audiences lose interest. You can explain your point of view in common talk styles, but when you are presenting something to people, the use of short but to the point sentences will be better.

Be open and honest

Another very important thing is to be open and honest with the topic at which you are communicating. You must be unbiased during discussion and communication because if you are biased in the process, even the impact of communication will be disturbed.  If you are feeling overly pressured at work or experiencing certain challenges concerning your job than at least at the point of discussion you should avoid your inner fear and speak equivocally but honestly.

Improve yourself

Along with improving your communication skills you also have to improve your personality, because if people will like your personality, they will like to talk to you and if they do not like you, it is not a good idea to compel them to talk to you. By having charming and glaring personality it will attract people towards you. It will help you a lot in the improvement of your personality and will give you a happy and charming personality.

How to Solve Common Issues That Occur Throughout Daily Life

Go to the cause of the problem

Without giving a hard hit to the cause of the problem, being able to tackle it head on will be a tough challenge. It is a common observation and strategy that when you’re able to get right at the heart of a problem’s cause, then it will prove to be much easier to solve by determining the best possible solution which will meet the desired outcome. The best way I have found to take a problem head on is to clearly visualize what the current situation is, examine all possible scenarios that would effectively deal with it in an appropriate manner and choose the best method that will provide a desired outcome in your favor.

Define the problem

The first and most effective tool to solve any problem is to recognize the problem. When you recognize the problem, it will become easier for you to tackle it. After defining the problem, you will have a much more thorough understanding of the situation to get ideas in place for designing possible outcomes to deal with it. Let’s take Jillian for example, Jillian has several problems in her daily life. Most of them occur because she had brought them upon herself by making such bad decisions, although since she is used to coping with them herself, she has become skilled in the area of problem solving. Firstly she would discuss the issue at hand with a number of her colleges and observe the different methods of action that can be applied. She would then weigh up all the pros and cons from each piece of advice and ultimately come up with a solution that would best suit the situation. This example shows clearly how any problem can be addressed by simply analyzing all the possible scenarios and concluding with the best plan of action.

Check the nature of the problem

After defining the problem, it is then a matter of determining the nature of it to define whether it will be simple or more complex to solve. The reason for such an action is because the nature of it can sometimes be unclear, meaning it will require a much more in depth insight for being able to determine an appropriate way to take on an approach. It is only natural that to handle an issue, one should know the basic problem and factors responsible for the issue. In this way one can solve the problem effectively and provide the best possible outcome.

 

Celebrate the little things

These simple actions provide a highly positive response towards most difficult situation. It is based upon the reward factor where you treat yourself for the tiny steps forward after the many steps back beforehand. We all know what it feels like to fail at something, even though we try our best over and over for a long period of time and it just seems like all efforts are being outweighed by the constant downfall. The most important thing to remember is that we are all human beings and every successful person was once failed many times over. The is no measurement for success and everyone has their own unique journey to get there, so despite how many times you fail at something, always celebrate those tiny steps forward as they over time will grow into larger ones.

Be who you want to be

Yes, you read that right. If you want to create a life that you can be proud of and that makes you happy, then pull a Nike and “just do it.” At the end of the day it’s your choice of who you want to be. That’s not the answer we always want to hear, but it sure is the one we all need. Stop blaming circumstances and make changes today. Proactivity starts with understanding that you always have a choice and you can choose to take control of your life and go after any dream that you have. You are in complete control of your own life, so live to create the world that you want to live in.

Ways to Enhance Your Confidence When Nobody Else Believes in You

It has reached a point in time where you are at the stage of moving beyond that comfort zone and bring forward that dream you’ve kept hidden inside for such a long time. You’re super pumped up ready to unleash what you’ve always were meant to do and show the world what you are truly capable of. The only problem is that no one else out there believes in you and your confidence.

Unfortunately, most of us have grown to accept the reality behind our dreams that is the fact that it can only exist in our thoughts and it’s beyond our capability to bring out for the whole world. So what do you do if you are bursting with confidence but no one else around you shares the same level of enthusiasm?

If you’re going to walk the pathway to success, it has to be with pure confidence with absolutely no elements of doubt. Therefore it is essential to work on the mindset daily and convince yourself in the mind that you are going to be the person you were meant to be.

It all boils down to these three simple ways to assert your self-confidence even though there is no one else out there who believes in your ability:


Flood your mind with positive everything

I remember many years ago when I first become an entrepreneur, people laughed at my dreams. I would tell my family and friends about these amazing ideas and map out strategies on how I could bring forward something new to this world, but it would always turn out into a laughing subject. People will hate on and criticize those who want to succeed because they have either tried and failed themselves or they simply do not want to see you do better than them, and it’s the sad truth.

I held a vision of myself as a young handsome and successful entrepreneur who lived in a mansion with a beautiful wife and would wake up every day telling myself that it was going to happen very soon. The amazing thing was that I attracted so many positive like-minded people in my life and they supported my beliefs which ultimately built upon my success daily.


Encourage others who fail to get up and try again

Every legend we know today has had their fair share of failures. In order to become successful, it’s first required to encourage and support others in their own journey. A simple action like this will reflect upon your own personality as it will show yourself the true meaning of being a leader instead of following the typical crowd who either ignore or resent those who aspire success. So be mindful of others and only expect to be treated the same way as you treat others.

 

Calm your inner critic

The support of others will collapse if you first do not possess confidence in yourself. Despite your confidence having an effect, it’s the inner critic you have about yourself which proves to be a challenge in being able to identify. Within your own mind, it may seen non-existent, but the reality is that inner critic will show in a form of guilt, doubt, shame or worthlessness. To avoid this from having an impact on your daily life, you are going to need to encourage your inner dialogue which can be done by:

  • Remembering your past victories and accomplishments. Recall the challenge, emotions and mindset of who you were in that moment. Remind yourself that at any time you can be that person again.
  • Identify your strengths. Ask yourself, What am I masterful at doing? Once you’ve answered the question, celebrate your talents by communicating this value to others.
  • Encourage yourself regularly with self-affirmations grounded in your true capabilities, instead of hope affirmations, which are generic in nature.
  • Divorce the scarcity mentality. Believing that opportunities are scarce helps foster the fear that we aren’t good, wealthy or intelligent enough to fight for our scraps of a tiny possibility pie. Instead, understand that we live in a world of abundance. You can decide at any moment that you are beyond enough to create opportunity in a world where there are plenty.

Receiving outside validation can be tremendously rewarding. However, it is your personal responsibility to master the confidence that comes from within. If your current atmosphere does not cultivate self-confidence, then it’s time for you to design a more supportive environment for yourself. Take the first step of believing in yourself and watch as everyone else begins to follow in your footsteps.

 

How to Eliminate Distractions

When it comes to productivity, smartphones, negativity and social media could be your downfall.

Everything demands your attention. Today, devices, email and social media all vie for your heed at any given moment. The cost of these distractions to your personal and professional lives is well documented. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine found that it takes a typical office worker 25 minutes to return to the original task after an interruption, and an experiment by the authors of The Plateau Effect: Getting from Stuck to Success found that work interruptions decreased accuracy by 20 percent.

There are other, less evident distractions, too. Surrounding yourself with negative people has been shown to influence weight gain, smoking and even your likelihood of divorce.

Take these steps to slash cognitive and emotional distractions, increase focus and thrive:

1. Stop digital pressures.

Carve out blocks of time—whether for work, exercise or people you care about—and turn off your phone and computer. Download the free app SelfControl, which shuts off especially distracting websites such as social media or news pages for a set period of time.

2. Give yourself frequent breaks.

Just because you can work 24/7 doesn’t mean your mind or body are designed to do so.

3. Mind your physical health.

Exercise, plenty of sleep, healthy eating and all of those things you know you’re supposed to do promote mental health and focus.

4. Turn off smartphone notifications.

Limit the number of times per day you check and respond to email, texts and social media. Remove the temptation to constantly keep an eye on these pests.

5. Knock out the most dreaded duties first thing in the morning.

Have a difficult email you must send? Bills to manage? Need to initiate a difficult conversation? Get it off your to-do list and out of your mind, freeing you to be productive.

6. Eliminate or minimize negative people in your life.

These are people who play the victim, are stuck in unhealthy habits, or generally make you feel drained or bad about yourself. Surround yourself with those who are positive, focused, productive and ambitious. Remember the late iconic speaker Jim Rohn’s rule: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

 

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

To Succeed Under Pressure, Focus on the Experience

Coach Wooden used his definition of success not just as a mantra for life, but also as a means to improve performance: “Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to become the best of which you are capable.”

“A coach can only do his best, nothing more,” he explained. “But he does owe that not only to himself but to the people who employ him and to the youngsters under his supervision. If you truly do your best—and only you will really know—then you are successful and the actual score is immaterial whether it was favorable or unfavorable. However, when you fail to do your best, you have failed even though the score might’ve been to your liking.”

 

Doing the best that you’re capable of doing is victory in itself.

 

Simply feeling good about one’s effort, though, is not enough to be effective, Coach explained. “This does not mean that you should not coach to win. You must teach your players to play to win and do everything in your power that is ethical and honest to win. I do not want players who do not have a keen desire to win and do not play hard and aggressively to accomplish that objective. But I want to be able to feel and want my players to sincerely feel that doing the best that you’re capable of doing is victory in itself and less than that is defeat.”

He added, “It is altogether possible that whatever success I have had or may have could be in direct proportion to my ability not only to instill that idea in my players but also to live up to it myself.” This philosophy served Coach well not only in helping to pull together his teams, but also in inspiring the individuals who played for him to concentrate on real success within their own lives and pursuits.

For example, Rafer Johnson was a UCLA basketball player from 1958 to 1959, and the gold medal winner in the 1960 Olympics decathlon. An incredibly talented athlete in his own right, when Johnson first arrived at UCLA from the small town of Kingsburg, California, he was overwhelmed and intimidated by the big city campus and the level of competition he was facing.

Everything changed, however, as soon as Johnson took to the court for basketball practice. “Coach Wooden said all he wanted from us individually was that we try as athletes and students, to be as good as we could be,” Johnson recalls. Coach urged his players to focus on giving their all to the team and to their own development as players and as people.

 

“Don’t worry about the other guy; just concentrate on doing your best.”

 

From that day forward, Johnson changed his perspective and found it influenced everything else for the better. “My subsequent performance in the 1960 Olympics, held in Rome, had a lot to do with Coach’s philosophy of concentrating on being the best I could be,” he said. “Don’t worry about the score, the medal, the prize; don’t worry about the other guy; just concentrate on doing your best. It’s that simple.”

Rather than focusing on winning, Coach urged his players—and himself—to focus on growing in the sport and working with an “all-in” mindset that valued the experience more than the outcome. The result was an unparalleled career that included 10 NCAA Championships (seven of which were consecutive) and 38 consecutive sudden-death NCAA tournament victories.

When the external pressure was the greatest, neither Coach nor his players allowed that external pressure to impact their performance. They were only concerned with their best and that was something over which they had control. As Coach was fond of saying: “The more concerned we become over the things we can’t control, the less we will do with the things we can control.”